Saturday, February 4, 2012

The Pros and Cons of Going Forward With Brazil


He's shorter than me
He's still not completely over his ex-girlfriend
He never wants to come to my place, but he always expects me to go to his
He's not very nice to Jasper :/ I don't think he likes him very much (That is a BIG DEAL!!)
He's only 25
He never shuts up about blowjobs, cuz apparently they're his favorite thing in the world, and I pretty much hate giving them! Ugh...
I'm just not sure if he's someone I could settle down with, you know, for the long haul


He's always honest with me
He's kind, and considerate
We both love music
He's really good in bed
I have fun with him
We have good conversation
I'm attracted to him
Sometimes I feel like I could see myself in a relationship with him

Sooooo that's my list. As of now. I could easily elaborate on any of those things, but I tried to keep it as simple as possible. Right now I'm just really second guessing everything, because this morning we were talking, and he was telling me the whole story about his really shitty past couple of months, which of course included stuff about his ex. And I asked him again if he has any feelings still for her, and he said he honestly probably does. But he also said that even though he sometimes wants to see her or talk to her, he knows that even if he went back with her that she would do the same thing to him again. So he doesn't want to get back with her, but I know he thinks about it! And he says he's been sort of depressed the last couple of months, but that when he's with me, he's able to forget all that stuff, because I make him happy. ((Sigh)) But I think I deserve more than that.
I just feel like maybe I should take a step back from him right now, until...until he's more emotionally available. Do you guys think I'm overreacting? UGh...I just, I have this unsettling feeling in the pit of my stomach, and don't know what to do!

((Sigh)) He's texting me right now, asking me what time I work tonight. I saw Matt last night, he guy I hooked up with on NYE. He came into the bar and literally acted like he didn't see me. We made eye contact! Then after he left, he texted me, "Hey I was just at your bar! Where were you?" as if he didn't know. Pathetic...
Guys suck.


Jennifer said...

If a guy won't make the effort to come to your place, so not worth it! He should like you enough to want to see you anywhere and be willing to go out of HIS way to see you!

Anonymous said...

I say trust your instincts. I'd back up.

Ashley said...

Sounds like a "project" guy to me. Even though there are pros to the situation, it seems like the cons are just as heavy, unfortunately.

One thing to think about: How much effort does he make to see you? (Other than text messages asking you to come over.)

That answer might define your answer to Brazil or no Brazil.

Side note: ALL guys love blow jobs. If a guy acts any differently, he is simply lying to you until he can be truthful.