Tuesday, January 12, 2016

What Would You Do?

Yesterday morningish, my roommate told me she was going to meet a friend for lunch in the quarter. It's rare that she ever leaves the house, because she works from home and she is such a homebody she is rarely seen not in sweats or PJ's. But I was like, "Ok, have fun!" and then I left for work shortly afterwards.
Well later that afternoon, when I was on my way home from work, she texted me that she was on her way home from lunch, pretty buzzed, and bringing company. I didn't really think much of it, and went about my business. Well they came home a short time later, and I was in my room, editing photos and watching TV, so I didn't go out and introduce myself right away. Plus, they seemed a bit drunk, and I just wasn't in the mood. But eventually, I had to leave my bedroom, and they were both in the kitchen pouring wine. So Jenn says, "Hey, Peyton, this is my friend from high school, Steve. Steve, this is my roommate, Peyton." Steve looks like Kevin from The Office. Fat, bald, and stupid. Except instead of being sweet and harmless, he seemed really trashy.
Then Jenn tells me that they haven't seen each other in about 8 years, and have been catching up and drinking all day (which was obvious), and how she's never sure if she should tell people he was ahead of her in high school, or behind her, because he repeated 2 grades. ((eye roll))
Well I exchanged all the necessary pleasantries, got my glass of water, and retreated back to my bedroom. A couple hours later, they were still carousing and drinking and smoking in the backyard, which Jenn is pretty much always doing, so I wasn't paying them any mind. Then I started chatting with this guy on Tinder and we were talking about meeting out later, so I hopped in the shower and started getting ready. After I got dressed, I headed back into the bathroom to fix my hair, and I heard a loud crash from the back yard. Both of our bathrooms are in the very back of the house, with windows looking out onto the garage/porch/backyard area. It's pretty small. So I go to look out the window to see what had happened, and Jenn and Steve are butt ass naked, fucking on the patio furniture!! Jenn, I might add, has a boyfriend of 5 years, who stays here every other weekend, and is sooo nice and helpful, and is always fixing stuff for us around the house. He even installed a new alternator in my old car for me, FOR FREE! So here I am, witnessing her cheating on this awesome guy (who is way hotter than she is, btw), with this DISGUSTING fat man, and I was just so in shock I didn't know what to do! I just had to get out of there. So I finished getting ready as quickly as possible, without even having fully confirmed plans with Tinder guy, and I just left. I ended up going to a small hotel bar I like, by myself, because I hadn't heard from Tinder guy in a while. I texted Bethany, and Lauren, and my cousin, Noelle, but none of them could hang out. So it was just me! Alone at this bar. But I actually ended up making a new friend, which was cool. His name is Mason, and he was sitting next to me at the bar with some friends, but he just started talking to me, and we ended up talking till midnight when the bar closed. Then he invited me to join him and 2 of his friends at another bar. So I went with them, we had another round, talked some more, and then I dropped Mason off at his car and went home. The great thing about it is, I wasn't interested in him sexually (he's only 22), I wasn't looking for anything except some people to talk to! And that's exactly what I got. And it was fun. He also happens to work in the same industry as me, he's a videographer. So we had a lot to talk about. We exchanged numbers at the end of the night, and perhaps we'll hang out again sometime. Who knows! I got home around 2:30 am, and Jenn and that dude were in her room, sleeping. Ugh. I think he's still here now actually. She hasn't shown her face all day. They've just been holed up in her bedroom. I don't know what to do about this. There is no way I will actively keep that secret for her. I won't even be able to look her boyfriend in the eye! She has to tell him. That is just so fucked up. I mean, they're planning to move in together when her lease here is up! That's this year! And she just cheated on him big time with some trashy fat guy! I don't get it AT ALL. Wtf is wrong with people?? What do I do?? I want to tell him, but obviously I can't, because I live with Jenn and that would make things really awkward between us, and of course, it's none of my business. I don't wanna be in the middle of their drama. But I won't lie for her. I won't.
What would you do?


Anonymous said...

You acknowledge it is none of your business - and that is the answer to what you should do. It is not about you. It doesn't concern you. It is so not your business. And before you go on about how much it is your business, "because you will not lie for her,"- on what planet would you have to actively lie for her? Her boyfriend is going to come over next weekend and say, "I need you to tell me right now if Jenn has ever cheated on me!" Seriously? Go about your life, and if she ever feels like discussing it, and you are close to her in that way, you can give your opinion. - No judgements, though! She probably got loaded and feels AWFUL about what she did. I actually feel quite sorry for her in that respect.

Anonymous said...

Well, had that been me witnessing it.. I would have walked my happy ass out there and busted her in the act right then and there. Been all "OMG! What the fuck Jen!! What is (insert boyfriends name) gonna say when he finds out!!??" And then just stood there until they detached. Maybe even snap a photo real quick too. Fuck that. I don't support cheaters, I won't lie for cheaters. I dgaf who they are. Could be my own momma. I'll bust her ass and try my hardest to make her feel like shit when I catch her lol

I agree, you can't tell her bf, it's not your place. But don't lie about it either. If he asks you directly, answer. Otherwise, talk to Jen when slime ball is gone. If he doesn't leave soon, try to catch her when hes taking a shower or something and tell her shits not cool and you can't condone that in your house. Hes over stayed his welcome.. something lol

Peyton said...

Hmmmm...advice from some very opposite sides of the spectrum. Although I KNOW it's not my business, it did happen in my house, and I'm very uncomfortable with it. I've been cheated on before and it's awful! I have morals, and I'm just not ok with that happening around me. I haven't spoken to her yet. In fact, I haven't even SEEN her since I caught them in the act. I think she's been avoiding me, but I'm sure we'll run into each other today at some point. So I'll keep you all posted.

Anonymous said...

It's none of your business. Keep it that way. This will blow up in your face. And the judgmental stuff not a good look for you. If he comes out and ask don't lie. But will he honestly ask? Probably not! Unless you can honestly say you have never made a mistake in your life then you have no room to judge. I'm sure you would have hated for commenters to come on here and say I have morals and casual sex is wrong so your a whore Peyton!

http://sweetcanadian.blogspot.com/ said...

Casual sex as a single person and cheating are not even close to the same thing.

I wouldn't be able to handle it. I wouldn't actively tell the bf but i would confront the roommate and make sure she knew how unhappy you are about being in such an uncomfortable position.

People turn their head too often thinking nothing is their business and that accounts for a lot wrong today. When i grew up we actually knew our neighbors and could trust the kids would be safe outside and the neighbors all watched out for each other.

I agree with you on this one.

http://sweetcanadian.blogspot.com/ said...

also to pp, some things are not mistakes and should not be chalked up as one. Cheating is not a mistake, it is an active choice whether alcohol is involved or not. Sometimes it is choices not mistakes and sooo many write off really bad choices that way which is not cool.

Ashley said...

This a totally cringeworthy story and picturing it in my mind didn't help with my lunch plans. LOL. That said, I would keep it to yourself. Unless her boyfriend straight up asks you, it's not something that should be shared. Yeah, it sucks, but it will be even worse if you involve yourself.

As far as Lane, I think you're doing the right thing. It's too hard to make something work right now with him. You're also going through quite the emotional upheaval trying to make it work, which isn't good considering the return on investment.