Thursday, March 24, 2016

Late Night Musings with Adam

So just when I thought time was about to run out on Adam, he texted me in the middle of the night. And it just happened, I was awake. So we're chatting for a bit, and he suggests I come over. I'm like, "It's almost 4 in the morning..." and then this conversation happened. Sorry it's so long, but shit got a bit heavier than I anticipated and I want your thoughts.

So he must have passed out at this point, because our correspondence was getting more and more delayed, and since he told me he was probably gonna sleep another full day, I'm not surprised that I still haven't heard from him. I expect I will late tonight again. So since it HAS basically been 3 weeks since I've seen him, I feel like at this point, I would be totally fine with just not seeing him again. I mean not totally fine, but...it's not like I'd be smarting from rejection. I'm just not sure if that's really what this is? He said he'd be willing to try, I'm just not sure if he wants to. I dunno. The fact that we haven't seen each other in so long probably makes it easier for him to part ways as well. So part of me wants to give him another chance to be crazy about me, and part of me wants to just quit while we're ahead if this is going to be a waste of time. He seems like a great guy, and I like him, and I'd like to continue seeing him if this possibly has a future, but if he's not into it then....? Maybe it's just not meant to be. So what do you guys think?
P.S. "Murder Porn" means binge watching crime dramas lol.


Anonymous said...

Omg I'm sooooo not surprised that yet again you turned something fun and simple into this long winded stupid conversation with a guy that just turns him off. Can't you ever just BE. Just go with it and not poke these guys and tell him everything. Guys don't want complicated so early in a relationship. He's not going to want to deal with you now sorry. You've made him question you - you made yourself loom like one of those needy and high maintenance girls.

Peyton said...

Yea well it's done now, so you can go shout "I told you so" from the rooftops if it makes you so damn happy.

Anonymous said...

Yeah I'd say you turned him off. :(. It seemed like he tried to get back to a joking flirty place but I guess you didn't see it. It was way too early for that kind of talk. I can see if you hadn't already slept with him but you did. Best thing would have been a funny flirty no to his 4 am invite and a change of subject.

I'm not as harsh as the first commenter but guys really don't want all the complication out the gate. When it gets serious it gets complicated but out the gate most people men and women want fun, exciting and flirty.

But hey maybe he will surprise us and still pursue you. That would be an awesome surprise :)

Anonymous said...

The thing is.... I'm not happy at at. I was rooting for him and was hoping this was going to work. I've been reading your blog for years. I've just noticed a pattern with you that you push guys a bit too much in the beginning so that they run away instead of just letting things progress naturally. I really hope you find love and happiness. I do. I just don't think your approach is working.

Autumn said...

I wonder if by sleeping with guys straight away you are giving the impression that you are a booty call girl instead of a relationship girl? Maybe if you waited a few dates before sleeping together that might work out better? I agree with the other poster that a flirtatious funny no would have been the best response. It would have shown you aren't interested in booty calls but without having too get so heavy so soon. Guys can understand the message we are communicating without us over talking it if that makes sense.

http://sweetcanadian.blogspot.com/ said...

I agree with the last anon, and I've told you that before as well.

If you are not looking for a booty call and/or friends with benefits then don't have them. There is nothing wrong with casual sex between consenting adults but you CRAVE that relationship, so when you have sex with someone you don't understand why you are not good enough for that relationship. That is probably not the truth, but the way it is in your head (the not good enough part).

Idk what it is going to take to make you happy, but I sure hope you find it soon, so that you can get back to living a fun life!

Anonymous said...

How's everything going? Have you talked to him?