Sunday, March 27, 2011

All About Matty

Oh g's... I just got home! It's 5:25 am! Lol. I worked the upstairs bar again tonight, with AJ and Matty. We had a lot of fun, and I definitely got Matty back for his pranks last week. I totally iced him when he was least expecting it! I hid a bottle of Smirnoff Ice in the dishwasher. Lol. We made pretty good money too, and somehow, AJ convinced me to go out for a couple drinks afterwards. I didn't even realize there were bars that stayed open till 5am here! So AJ, Matty and I rode together in AJ's car to this bar called Monopoly. When we got there, it was obvious that everyone who works at Monopoly knows everyone that works at my bar. Lol. A few minutes later, my boss, Martin, showed up. How weird is that? I totally feel like he doesn't like me, cuz he's so serious all the time, and hardly ever smiles. But he bought us all shots. Of Jameson. Ugh. I never drink whiskey, but I didn't wanna be singled out, and I really do wanna just quit being "the new girl" and be one of the gang. So I took it. Definitely stopped drinking after that. Omg. Just thinking about it right now is making my stomach to flip-flops.
But anyway, we were only there for about an hour before they closed, and I spent the majority of that time talking to Matty. It turns out, he's a musician! He sings and plays guitar, and has his own acoustic shows. So we talked about music for a long time. He's really nice, Matty. And he's...different somehow. I like him. I know that. I just haven't decided how much I like him. I mean, he's only 23, which is obviously a setback, but before I knew he was 23, I just assumed he was at least 25 because he seemed so mature. Which is rare, not just for guys in general, but especially for guys his age. Most 23 year old guys act like total assholes. But not Matty. Since we both rode in AJ's car, we took a cab together back to the bar where his car was, and he drove me home from there. He refused to let me pitch in on the cab, cuz he said he believes chivalry is not dead, and he is a gentleman; a dying breed. ((Sigh))
He kind of reminds me of Aaron, my good friend from the bar in Houston. They're both so sweet, and genuine and unaffected by the bar industry. That seems really hard to come by. So all logic is pointing towards I should go for Matty. The only thing is, his ex came into the bar tonight, and he pointed her out to me. She's blond, wears tons of makeup, and was obviously flaunting her new boyfriend in front of Matty. I would give her a 6 out of 10 as far as looks go, but mainly I was just so shocked that Matty would ever go for a girl like her. She seemed so shallow and fake. And he's totally the opposite of that. But he told me he feels like she's the one that "got away". Ugh... So I dunno. He clearly has some unresolved issues where she's concerned. Oh, and his longest relationship is 6 months. He told me he averages about 2 months. !?! Lol. That's like...the worst part of a relationship. The first 2 months. That's the part where you're trying to figure out what's really going on between you and this other person, and it's always so nerve racking trying to figure out what they want. And then usually after 2 or 3 months, you finally get comfortable and don't have to stress about every little thing. It's like he's in a state of perpetual dating! Which sounds like torture to me. But he is young. And I am biased, because I hate dating. ((Sigh))
I know I've had a couple drinks but...I feel like I need to figure out what I'm going to do, or not do, about this Matty situation. We do work together, which is bad. But he's in school, and motivated to go somewhere in life. He's a gentleman, he's attractive, he's a musician like me, and he's funny.... So what's stopping me from going for it?


Anonymous said...

you've already answered this yourself ya know......he's still hung up on the ex to some level...thats a red flag and something you dont want to get mixed in with....and you've already done this before...dating someone you worked with.....if you really like your job and need it to survive while you are in school then date elsewhere....don't make the same mistake you made back home which made yourself miserable at work. just my opinion.

Ashley said...

Just keep on flirting with him nd have fun with it. No need to make a decisive action just yet.

Anonymous said...

I would say don't make any decision just yet. It seems as if you've just decided that you like him so get to know him a little better just as friends. Besides if he is still hung up on his ex, you probably want to hold off for a bit anyway. And if something starts to develop, he can make the move.