Tuesday, March 9, 2010

What Gives

Wednesday night, while Cecilia and I were at the rodeo, Dave called. And of course I missed his call cuz I didn't hear my phone ringing. So with the ball being in my court, I called him back Thursday night. We chatted for about 40 minutes, he expressed his interest in getting together, and I invited him to hang out with Jenna and I on Sunday. When we got off the phone, I immediately called Jenna cuz she wanted all the details. Then while I was on the phone with her, he called me back!

"Hey, hold on. Dave's calling me again. I'll call you right back!" I said to Jenna.



"Hey Peyton. It's Dave."

"I know." I laughed.

"Ok well just making sure you remembered. It's been so long since we've talked!"

"Haha, yea I remember. What's up?"

"Well, I was just thinking...would you like to get lunch tomorrow? I mean, do you get to leave for lunch?" He asked.

"Umm...you do know I work all the way on the north side of town, right?"

He hesitated. "Uhhh no, I didn't know that... Well, that's ok, I'm not really doin' anything."

"Ok, well...I don't usually leave for lunch, but I'm sure it wouldn't be a problem. Let me just double check with my boss tomorrow morning and get back to you though, cuz I wouldn't want you to drive all the way out there and have to eat by yourself!"

"Sounds good!"

So it was agreed. First date with Dave.
The next morning, I asked my boss as soon as he came in, and he said that was fine. I ended up being late to lunch though, because we had a meeting that went a little long. So when I finally got to the restaurant, Dave was already seated at a table. In his jeans, tennis shoes and checkered button up shirt. Hehe. Such a country boy...

Lunch went well. There wasn't really any awkwardness. We just talked and ate. He is very smart. He went to Penn State, and got his master's degree in nutrition. And he knows TONS of random medical facts. But I think it's kinda cool. I like a guy who's educated! But as far as the chemistry, I'm still not sure. I mean I don't want to force anything, or rush anything. And I just don't want to decide anything yet. I wanna really get to know him first. Which is exactly what I told Jenna when she asked me how it went. I mean I like him. He's smart, and nice, and he seems to have a goofy side, although I haven't been able to see it yet. I can tell from his Facebook. Lol.

So on Sunday, Jenna, Dave and I all met at the zoo. It was a little too overcast to be outdoors, but all the animals were out and about, so it was actually a great day for the zoo! And it's been almost too long since I've been. I brought my camera, of course, and took tons of photos. Dave seemed a little quiet, perhaps introspective? I dunno, I mean Jenna tells me he claims to be shy, but I don't see that. I mean he doesn't have a problem talking to people, he just...doesn't say much.
And of course Jenna and I are cracking jokes and acting fools, making the bears talk, and pointing out how small the lions' balls are. Hahaha. They really were quite small, considering he was a lion. And later I told Jenna that I was concerned that perhaps I'm too...wild for Dave. I don't mean that in a crazy or sexual way. I just mean...I'm a very outgoing, spontaneous, silly, out there girl! And he seems so calm and reserved. But then Jenna pointed out that his best friend is JAMES. Lol. I met James the same night I met Dave and he is without a doubt, certifiably, off the reservation, crazy. So that's a good point.

As we were getting ready to leave the zoo, Dave suggested we go grab a bite to eat, but Jenna turned us down, cuz she'd already promised she would have dinner with her parents. So he asked if I was still interested, and I said sure. He picked a place nearby that he'd heard about. It was an Italian bistro type restaurant, with a wine list as long as the Bible. But it was reasonably priced, good food. And once again, we had a nice meal, with no awkward silences. Afterwards, he walked me out to my car.

"So, what do you think? Do you wanna continue to get together and hang out or...?"

"Yea." I said, "I mean I know I have a lot going on, working 2 jobs and all, so you'll just have to bear with me, but I have Sundays off!"

"Ok well I'll give you a call later on this week, and maybe we can set something up."

"Ok." I said.

"Well thanks for havin' dinner with me." He said, stepping in closer.

"Well thanks for dinner!" I said, as he hugged me and kissed my cheek.

"No problem. I'll talk to you soon."

And then I got in my car, and left!

The good thing about this er...relationship? is that I can go through the day without thinking about him, or wondering what he's doing, or Facebook stalking him. So there's no stress involved. Also I know that he's smart, and nice, and stable, and obviously into me, especially since he drove an hour just to take me to lunch. The bad thing? I'm not sure how I feel. I think usually at this point, when I really like a guy, I would be thinking about him constantly, wondering what he's doing and Facebook stalking him. But I mean...it's not like with Cali, where I almost dreaded going out with him, cuz the spark so clearly wasn't there. It's just...neither. I don't know. But I'm not about to turn a great guy loose just cuz I can't figure out what the hell is going on in my own head. I guess I'm just not ready for anything yet. So I'm just gonna continue to hang out with him, and hopefully I can draw him out of his shell a little bit. We'll see.

But here's an interesting, unrelated tidbit. There's this other guy, we'll call Boston. He works at the bar with me, as a door guy. He has a real job actually, a really good job. He just works at the bar for fun, and to meet people, cuz he moved here from (guess where!?) Boston, kinda recently.
So he's been working with me for a while, and I've always thought he was cool and funny, and that's it. BUT...I've known for some time now that he has a bit of a crush on me. And up until like...4 days ago, I never considered him an option. He's too short, and I'm just not really attracted to him. I mean he's definitely attractive, just not my type. But he's so funny! And goofy, and uninhibited! I mean, he sings and dances around the bar after hours acting like an ass, just to make people laugh. And it's not like he's doing it for attention. He doesn't do it in front of crowds. Lol. He actually hates being put on the spot, but he's hilarious! And I just love that about him. And I've found myself thinking about him randomly, and I dunno...it's almost starting to weird me out. Saturday night after work, I texted him "What are you doing?" because he left early, and I thought that was kinda weird.
Then he texted me back, "Waiting for you to come over to my house." Lol. And I totally knew he was kidding.
So I wrote, "HA!"
And then five minutes later, I wrote him again, "So...where do you live?" as a joke, but maybe that joke had a little truth in it??
Anyways, he didn't write back, I'm guessing he went to sleep. But the next day, when I was getting ready for the zoo, he texted me, "Where you being serious??"
And I just laughed to myself and didn't write back.
Then 2 hours later, another text from him that just said, "?"
And so I finally wrote, "I guess you'll never know!"
And he never responded.
But we had this moment on Saturday night, where he and I were goofing around and I got up in his face, really close, as a joke, but the sexual tension caught me off guard so much that I had to step back, like, WHOA. It was reallllllly weird. I mean our noses were practically touching, ya know? That close.
And after that I practically ran away from him, because all these things were running through my head, it was like I had to physically shake myself free of his influence.

Anyways, I know that's a lot of stuff to pile on about Boston, but it all just sorta crept up on me.
And this is the thing, with Boston, I'm pretty sure I would make out with him, just to see how it feels, but I'm not so sure I would date him. But with Dave, it's just the opposite. I don't feel impulsive like that with him, but I do wanna continue to see him.

So...what gives???


Autumn said...

I think that with Dave it sounds much more grown-up and stable. You shouldn't need to think/worry about what he is doing all day long and how he feels about you. That is what teenagers do. Adults are clear about their intentions and communicate them while properly balancing all aspects of their lives. They take things slow and are smart about it. So I think it's good that you are not disregarding Dave and are taking things slow with him. Also, I definitely think that a mature, reserved, educated guy would be the perfect thing to balance you out. Opposites can attract! As for Boston, he seems more like the previous guys you would go for (that never work out). I think there is an attraction there because you are both similar in some ways, but I don't think it will be the type to turn into a real relationship. If you are looking for fun, I would say have fun with Boston. If you are looking for a real, adult relationship, I would say keep seeing Dave. The only problem with you just "having fun" with a guy, is I think you always end up falling for them in the long run, which leads me to believe that you are more of a serious relationship girl (Dave).

Karen said...

man too bad you can't mesh these two together into the perfect combo huh...I say just have fun w/ all of it and see where it goes

sweetcanadian said...

Wow, the last couple days i have read your blog from front to back. Lots of reading lol.

I must say your tone has changed alot from when you first started this blog, you aren't quite the little party girl anymore which i guess comes with the growing up.

I really like this blog, the only thing i think needs tweaking is your reactions to comments, i honestly believe you do not need to get so defensive with people that DO NOT know you irl.

Maybe address comments every couple posts (make a response post) and leave out the snide remarks and stuff, my 2 cents.

Anonymous said...

I have to say, the whole picking between two guys in hard but I have a little bit of insight. I had two guys that I was interested in, almost the same as you. One that was perfect on paper: caring, sensitive, cute, honest, loyal, hardworking. The only problem was that I didn't feel a spark but the conversation/flow was great. The other guy was more of a Boston. He was HOT and fun. He made me feel carefree and giggly and I was so attracted to him. I ended up going with the fun guy, and within a month of being together he left me for another girl. Like a little puppy I went crawling back to the more stable guy because I loved being his friend. We ended up giving things another try and I realized that I made a mistake giving up on him so fast. The attraction grew and continues to grow everyday and we've been happy for the past six months. Don't write Dave off just because the attraction isn't there, it might just be working it's way in.