Sunday, September 18, 2011

Being Assertive

So this morning, for some odd reason, I started reading through all me and Lane's old text messages. And I just kept wondering, What happened? And that got me thinking about Bill, and how I don't want to play games. Shit or get off the pot! That's my new motto. So I decided I'm just going to be up front with him, and I sent him a text.

Me: So what's the deal with you?

Bill: What do you mean?

Me: You know like...what's the deal?

Bill: No, I don't know. What are you talking about?

Me: Lol relax! I feel like I've offended you in some way.

Bill: Haha no

Me: Well do you wanna hang out or what?

Bill: Ha I do!

Bill: I'm with my parents right now though

Me: Lol well I didn't mean right now!

Bill: You're being so assertive. I'm totally turned on!

Me: Lmao. I guess I'm just a no nonsense kind of person.

Bill: I love that. I'm all nonsense so we will really balance each other out.

Me: Lol that's good to know.

Bill: What are you up to today?

Me: I'm about to head up to school to do some work in the dark room for a little while. Then who knows?

Bill: I'm going to be at the improv tonight you should come hang!

Me: What's going on at the improv tonight?

Bill: Funny people on stage. 10pm.

Now I'm undecided about going because I don't want this to be another awkward Lane situation. For one, I don't know who else is going to be there, and two, I don't really want our first date, or whatever it is, to be with a bunch of people we both know. Hello? Awkward! So now I don't know how to respond. Should I just ask who else is going? Or would that sound like I'm weighing my options too much? Ugh... There I go over analyzing again.
I have to say though, I'm really surprised at how well my up-front approach worked. I mean, I got the answers I wanted. Now I just need to follow through.


Nic said...

Just go. You don't wanna play games, then go for the reason you're going (to hang out with bill) and don't think about the reasons not to go. If you're gonna overanalyse everything and don't take "risks", you might as well lock yourself in and never set a foot out the door.

Yepyep! said...

Good for you!!! I'm glad you took the lead with Bill... see? Didn't it turn out good? :)

I say go.. you asked him to hang out, he gave you an invite, don't decline now. Go thinking it's going to be with a bunch of friends hanging out, not a date... that way IF there are other ppl there you won't be disappointed. Plus, maybe he's wanting to hang out with you with other ppl around to feel you out some more before he actually asks you out on a 'date-date'. Maybe he's more of a shy type when it's 1 on 1 until he gets more comfortable around you.

Who knows.. There *may* be some method to his madness ;)

Good luck tho and HAVE FUN!!!!

Ashley said...

I hope you went and didn't think twice about who was going to be there. Can't wait to hear about your night.

I think guys appreciate assertiveness. The ones that like games, generally, play them too, which is a dealbreaker.

Soccer16HHS said...

What happened?! I am sooo not patient enough for this blog sometimes! lol Hopefully it was good =]]